Love...beyond the limits

Unconditional Love……

Nothing more or nothing less can be said about this word. Whatever definition you put forth for this term, limits its meaning, its essence.

It is simply what exists as truth of us all. The base of who we are and everything that we have created is within it. ‘Unconditional Love’ is the atmosphere in which we live, so we can’t see it or perceive it but that’s what holds everything. Its what energies us , its what gives us slight nudges and pushes in the right direction. However, what we see is everything inside this atmosphere and not the atmosphere itself.

So, we forget that it exists. We forget that we came from it and we are it.

We all have experienced ‘Love’ many times. And interesting part is, we have also experienced ‘Hate’, which is opposite of Love. The only reason for this duality is because the Love that we experience is not unconditional. It is based on certain conditions and when those conditions are broken we experience hate.

But what if, there was a Love that had no opposite. The Love that always persists, exists, without a start or an end. The Love that wraps its arms around you whether you are being ‘good’ or ‘bad’; whether you do the ‘right’ thing or the ‘wrong’ thing; whether you were ‘successful’ or a ‘failure’ Wouldn’t it be the greatest thing you ever wished? And what if I tell you that it is available to you, right now at this moment and is always there with you? You wouldn’t believe me, right?

But it is. It is the Unconditional Love you have for yourself.

No one ever taught us to Love our self unconditionally for everything that we are and we have been and done. From childhood, we are taught everything but Unconditional Love. We are taught to feel shame and guilt. To feel like a ‘bad boy’ or a ‘bad girl’ when we did certain things. We are taught to feel incomplete when we couldn’t score or reach a milestone. We were taught to feel jealousy every time we were compared to another. We were taught to feel anger every time someone got angry on us. And most important we were taught that it is ‘Wrong’ to love Self terming it as ‘Selfish’.

And now you ask me, why you do not know what ‘Unconditional Love’ is?

It is buried deep inside your own layers of mental conditioning. It is buried deep inside your own

‘what if I fail?/ What if I am wrong? / What if they don’t love me?/what if I die?’ or even worse ‘I am a looser’, ‘I cannot do this’ , ‘My life is going to be just this’, ‘No one ever loves me’, ‘If I do this , what will people think?’ , ‘I have to prove my worth to the world’ etc etc etc…….

There are so many layers to the way we think and hence the world we have built around ourselves simply because we do not Love ourselves, we do not trust ourselves, we do not feel secured with our own self, we fear the future!

What are we doing? We are living a life full of Fear, which separates us from our true essence, from our totality, from our happiness and from our Unconditional Love.

So, the next time, you feel frustrated, angered or sad; observe your own reactions. They are coming from the deep conditioning of your mind. They are part of you and your life, simply because you have accepted them as part of you when you were little. There is nothing right or wrong about it. It is just an experience.

Due to years of learned behaviour patterns, our mind is habituated to reacting in certain way for certain situations. It knows no other way. And all you want, at the time of your emotional turmoil is that, there should be someone, who can understand you. There must be at least one person, who can feel what you feel and make you feel that it’s okay to feel this way. You want that re-assurance from the world that you are alright and it’s okay to feel the way you do.

But that someone always eludes you too. Your parents, siblings, partner, children, friends…all come from various views and try to feel what you feel through their own filters. Result is obviously unsuccessful and you do not get the assurance.

The assurance that you seek is nothing but seeking ‘Unconditional Love’ from another.

But the most important point you forget here is, who has created this unique emotional turmoil in your being? It is no one else or nothing outside of you but YOU yourself.

So, who has the power to change it? Who needs to unconditionally love yourself?

You , yourself are the master of your entire universe and you have the free will and power to create whatever it is that you want to experience. So, if you need to experience grief, rejection, anger etc, you will manifest it as your world.

But, if you do want to experience ‘Unconditional Love’ , which most of us do; it must come out as your creation just like everything else.

Only when, you SEE yourself feeling a certain way, will you be free of that feeling. And when you are free of all the feelings created by your mind for the game of emotional drama, what prevails is nothing but ‘Unconditional Love’

You do not have to DO anything to feel unconditional love other than to accept your own feelings.

So, when you are down and are seeking someone to talk to, look at your own creation first. See what you are feeling and why you are feeling. Know that you created it and can change it. Just accept it for what it is and then you will feel a liberating power of love vibrating from inside of you. The immense love that’s trapped under the wraps of your hate, jealousy, guilt, anger and sadness, will bubble up and envelope you as unifying force of your fragmented soul. The power of unconditional is channelled through you, it becomes you and it then spreads out beyond You.